There is an inner child within each of us. This child is either healthy, happy, adaptable, or unwell, fearful, and confused. It should only take a while to notice how to heal your inner child.

View programmed responses. That's the key. These reactions are often overlooked because we don't even realize we have them. When you feel it, you will know which part of your inner child needs healing. Problems such as a lack of trust, low self-esteem, feeling insecure, anger, and regret are most likely caused by childhood healing areas. 

Support the others

A healthy inner child is like a healthy, well-adjusted adult. We all have problems in life, but emotionally healthy adults can deal with these problems emotionally, not blame—no pity party. No drama. There is no ongoing need for approval. Emotionally healthy adults know precisely who they are and do not need support from others.

To heal this wounded inner child, we read inner child healing books. It is not always easy as they are adept at hiding and seeking. Often they leave without knowing that they are there. Some want to reach out and say, "Here I am! Find me!" Another part says, "Shut up! Don't let them find your hiding place! It's safe here!" So be aware. Be alert and find that inner child.

Understanding

Once you find it, it will take some time to get it out of its hiding place. You may have to sit with them for hours, every day, for months to make a move. Slowly but surely, a new relationship will start to form, and eventually, they will hold your hand and walk out of the darkness. At first, you can make most of the conversations, but finally, with patience, they will open up, and a whole new world of understanding will open up. 

Think of this "small" part of yourself as a lost, restless soul wandering the same realm of time and space. Re-live the same trauma and turmoil they were unable to escape. Because they are part of you, their reactions to these unhealthy events will continue to affect you as an adult. Inner child healing books will determine your emotional response to your life. They are currently living. We can create a new reality when they come out of their hiding places and open together.

Final words

Only you can fill that hole. It's surprisingly hard to do because it's hard to love yourself when you have an underlying belief that there's something wrong with you and you're not loved. It's hard to forgive yourself for some of the things you've done. It's hard to love when you know deep down what you don't believe. To do this, to understand that no one or nothing can fill the hole except you, no matter how hard you try. Pure Emotional Magic will help you to understand these things. It's possible that you were very young and didn't even know what was happening. You are broken and not loved. It's the hole, not you.

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